Outsourcing Relationships?

Boy, do I need one of these.  My poor dog doesn’t get to play fetch often enough.

Then there’s my kids…

But (sigh…) busy parents, are you guilty of outsourcing your relationship with your kids?

I’m not judging, don’t worry.  I’ll admit, there are times I’m grateful for the iPhone, the television or video games that I let my kids play with, when I’m extremely involved or busy working on a deadline.  But have you noticed a new phenomenon happening during family dinners in restaurants?  Something that never happened some ten or fifteen years ago?

You know what I’m talking about, right? Parents talking over dinner, while their 1 year old child sits in a high chair watching Veggie Tales or something like it on their iPad.  And as the kids get older, they’re on their on smartphones, texting, facebooking, etc., while the parents talk to each other.  Hey, I know I do this from time to time.  But my wife and I try not to do this during family time.  I guess we’re hoping not to become an entire family that might at least sit together during meals, but all have our eyes glued to our gadgets, engaging with our social networks, while ignoring the people right in front of us–the people we love most.

Kids are growing up thinking this is normal, because unlike old folks from my generation, they have no more idea of what a world without internet, iphones, and iPads, is like than they do a world without oxygen.

What do you think?  Do you place gadget limits on yourself, your family, in hopes of staying connected in carbon space?  Or am I just being a bit too old school here?  I’d love to read your comments!

Joshua Graham is a New York Times and USA Today bestselling author, winner of the International Book Award and Forward National Literature Award. His thrillers include DARKROOM, LATENT IMAGE and BEYOND JUSTICE, and TERMINUS. Graham's works have been characterized as thought-provoking page-turners.

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